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It is an
interpersonal relationship between two persons that is mutually productive and
characterized by mutual positive regard.
Friendship is an interpersonal
relationship
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The communication interactions must have
taken place between the people.
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It involves ‘personalistic focus’.
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Friends react to each other as complete
persons; as unique, genuine and irreplaceable.
Friendship must be
mutually productive
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Not to be
destructive to either of the involved parties.
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Once destruction
enters into a relationship, it can no longer be characterized as friendship.
Friendship are
characterized by mutual positive regard
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Example, you
like me and like you.
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Liking people is
essential if we are to call them friends.
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Three major
characteristics of friends are trust, emotional support and sharing of
interest.
Friendship types
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Not all
friendship is same.
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It is
distinguishing among the three major types of friendship; friendship of
reciprocity, receptively and association.
Friendship of
reciprocity
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Is the ideal
type which characterized by loyalty, self-sacrifice, mutual affection and
generosity.
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It is based on
equality, each individuals shares equally in giving and receiving the benefits
and rewards of the friendship.
Friendship of
receptivity
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There is an
imbalance in giving and receiving; one person is the primary giver and the
primary receiver.
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It is a positive
facto, because each person gains something from the relationship.
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The different
needs of both the person who receive and the person who gives may develop
between a teacher and a student or between a doctor and a patience.
Friendship of
association
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Is a transitory
one.
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Described as a
friendly relationship rather than a true friendship.
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Often have with
classmates, neighbours, or co-workers.
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There is no
great loyalty, no great trust, no great giving or receiving.
Why do we seek out
friendship and close friendship?
Utility purpose: - to
help you to achieve your specific goals and need.
Affirmation: - to help
you to recognize your attributes.
Ego: - someone who
behave in supportive and encouraging.
Stimulation: -
introduces you to new ideas, help you to expand your worldview.
Security: - someone who
does nothing to hurt you.
Friendship and communication
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Friendship
develops over time in stages.
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From the initial
contact stage to intimate relationship, the depth and breadth of communication
increase.
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You talk about
issues that are closer and closer to your inner core.
Casual friendship
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The second stage
of friendship.
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Dyadic
consciousness takes place.
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Doing things
together.
Close and intimate relationship
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The third stage
of friendship.
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Most intimate
forms of togetherness.
Friendship and culture
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Different
cultures would bring about different meaning to friendship.
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Collective
society: the more friends, the better.
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Individual
society: the more friends i have the lesser chance of getting promotion in
workplace.
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High ambiguity:
presence of friends is expected and welcomed.
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Low ambiguity:
why should i hang out with people that i don’t know.
Romantic relationship
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Eros: erotic,
sensual, desire and lust.
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Ludus:
excitement, fun, and entertainment.
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Storage:
peaceful and slow.
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Pragma:
practical and traditional.
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Mania: extremist
of opposites.
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Agape:
unconditional love
Families
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Each family has
their own uniqueness and characteristic, but they do normally follow a certain
set of rules and criteria.
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Such as, defined
roles, recognition of responsibilities, shared history and future and shared
living space.
Types of families
Traditional couples
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The conventional
form of a family – shared values, beliefs, tolerance for one another.
Independent couples
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This family
setting stresses individually as the main theme in the family and unfortunately
this is how the modern family is today.
Separate couples
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This family
setting is not really a family but individuals in this family stay together for
a common benefit
Family and communication
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Equality:
individual in families would often seek and equal terms of respect,
understanding with one another and love.
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Balanced split:
have a balanced amount of responsibilities.
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Unbalanced
split: do not have balanced amount of responsibilities.
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Monopoly: a
person is the authority and a very traditional and conventional family setting.
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